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This is a post that has been on my mind for a while. As I am moving into my 8th year of photographing women, there are a lot of things I have heard over and over again from clients as well as things I hear from fellow photographers. My hopes for this post is to get clients and photographers on the same page about what to expect from Boudoir!

1. Its ok to be nervous. In fact, I welcome it! Nerves mean you are outside your comfort zone. Guess where all the fun stuff happens in life? That’s right – outside your comfort zone!! That’s where growth and self discovery thrive. Embrace the nerves, I promise they won’t last long.


2. We aren’t judging (or even really looking) at your body. I know that sounds crazy, but as photographers – that is not our job. Our job is to master posing, light, emotion, etc… So yes although we SEE you, we aren’t picking you apart. We are actually always aiming to capture the best of you and therefore, that is what we see.


3. On that note, you should know – Both Men and Women make great photographers! Yes, there are some perverts out there, however some of the best boudoir photographers I have seen are Men. Men have the ability to see women a different way that Women can. It’s not that one way is wrong or right. They are just different. When searching for a photographer, keep in mind which would make you feel more comfortable. Want to bring a friend to the shoot to make you feel better? Great! Always make sure you bring a friend who won’t be insulted when you throw her out though. A true professional will never make you feel uncomfortable – so you might not need her as much as  you think.


4. You don’t have to lose 5 or 10 pounds to book a shoot. Here’s a tip ladies -Wardrobe is key!! With the proper wardrobe, you are giving your photographer the ability to pose you any way they would like. By posing you properly, we will always make you look as good as you look in real life, if not better! And do yourself a favor – Get yourself measured!! Most women are wearing the wrong bra size. The proper bra size makes you look firmer, trimmer and way hotter. (Oh and PS… your period isn’t an excuse to cancel a shoot – a little bloat doesn’t really show on camera.)

5. No, we can’t just photoshop that out. Ok yes, there are SOME things we can photoshop out – like that little tattoo you got one drunk night when you were 18. Maybe that can easily go, but if it covers your whole back, maybe not. Talk to  your photographer about their photoshop policies before you book them!


6. The more it hurts the better it looks. A lot of photographers bill a photo shoot as a fun sexy day in which you will be pampered. Almost like a spa day. I am here to tell you that even though you WILL feel amazing, it is a lot of work. We are going to pose you and make you wear uncomfortable shoes and wardrobe. Your back will be sore, you may have blisters on your feet… but trust me when I tell you it’s worth it. Even though it might feel weird, trust us when we pose you. Our expertise is what you are paying for! You will have a new found appreciation for models.


7. Even though you say “it’s for him”, it’s also for you. Most women book shoots as a gift for someone else. The truth is, the experience is for you! The photos are the souvenir. Embrace the experience. The feelings that come along with it. Look back at the photos and remember how incredible you felt that day. You deserve the gift too.


8. It sucks that I can’t share your photos. I am going to take really gorgeous images of you, and it SUCKS that I can’t share them. I mean how can I build my business if I can’t share my work? It’s not easy – trust me. That said, I will still respect your privacy. If you don’t sign a model release (some clients still do),  I will not share your photos without your permission and I will not hold it against you. Your happiness is the most important thing in the world to me. That said, we love when you tell others how awesome we are. Boudoir is built on referrals and trust. If you love and trust us, please tell someone!


9. Size or age doesn’t matter. We don’t care if you are a size 2 or a size 22. 25 years old or 85 years old. For me, I want all women to celebrate their unique femininity shamelessly. That truly means ALL women. Don’t put boundaries on yourself just because you “think” it’s not for you. That is just your brain lying to you.


10. Be prepared, this could be a life changer. You think you are booking a photo shoot for fun or a gift. And you are! However, there is often the most incredible side effect to this experience. Often women will realize their potential. Their secret powers. Their true worth. They will get in touch with feelings they repressed and forgot about a long time ago. These feelings open up their minds and worlds. It gives them power to LIVE. To go after what they want in life. To get out of bad relationships, to apply for new jobs, to travel, to fall in love… The possibilities are endless. This is not just a photo shoot. It’s a life experience.


I hope this will shed some light on how fun and life changing boudoir can be! Please make sure to share with your friends… and take the leap – it’s SO worth it!


  • Rebecca Nash-Emerson - I LOVE this post Jen!
    So many great points that like you said, are great for both clients and photographers to keep in mind. It just gets me more excited to have my own boudoir photography session and to start trying out boudoir photography for myself.
    Thanks for being amazing girl!ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Nash-Emerson - Love this post Jen!
    Great points for photographers and clients alike. It definately made me think a little. I’m even more excited to have my own boudoir shoot and to start trying out boudoir photography for myself.
    Thanks for being amazing girl!ReplyCancel

Today is my 40th birthday.

I almost made it up until midnight last night. I aborted my mission to do so around 11:35. I admit, I started feeling a little anxious. Not about turing 40, but about letting go of my 30’s.

My 30’s were busy, fun, exciting…. predictable. When I turned 30 I was a newlywed and pregnant with my daughter. We had just bought a new home. It was such a brilliant time of my life. When I turned 30 I didn’t have any anxiety. I was on the path I wanted to be on. I knew what I wanted from my 30’s. Maybe even what was expected of them.

40 feels different. 



This decade doesn’t have the same road map. I am done having children. I am done buying houses. Done knowing what is next. I have NO CLUE what my 40’s holds for me. At times I get butterflies in my stomach about it. At first I think it’s anxiety, when I really think about it though, it’s not. It’s an anxious excitement.

Yes, I said it. I am excited about being 40!



I’ve spent the last month counting down my birthday and celebrating the things that make me feel #ShamelesslyFeminine. One thing I do know is that 40 will bring more of that for me. I am finally feeling more comfortable in my skin than I have ever felt. I don’t mean that in a superficial way. I mean it in an all around knowing who I am sort of way. I am more confident in myself and my abilities to do and be what I want. It’s freeing.



I have also realized that being #ShamelesslyFeminine isn’t always easy. It’s not always a pair of shoes and a new lipstick (although sometimes it is!). #ShamelesslyFeminine is a feeling. It’s an emotion. It’s just like all other emotions. Sometimes you feel it more than others. Sometimes you lose touch with it completely and other times it just oozes out of your pores.


Today, on my 40th birthday, I feel many emotions. Happy, grateful, blessed, excited and yes… #ShamelesslyFeminine.

Thank you to my Friend Mike Allebach and my Beauty team of Diana and Toni for helping me celebrate my birthday with an awesome photo shoot. Love you guys!!

Hope you all have a beautiful day!





  • Amanda-lee Seely - Happy Birthday! Love you! I can’t thank you enough for always being there for me and always having the “answers” to every problem I have ever had!

  • Kurt Krueger - Lovely photos. It looks like it was a nice birthday suit shoot! :)ReplyCancel

  • Kiran - Happy birthdayReplyCancel

  • Mary Gajda - Happy Birthday Jen! In two years I’ll be 50 believe it or not, and I hope to post a similar thing after my shoot with you some day!ReplyCancel

  • Kristina Houser - HAPPY BIRTHDAY Jen! You are such an inspiration! I am turning 30 this year and just bought a home, doing the baby thing etc. Looking so forward to the decade, and beyond. Be blessed and keep rocking on girl! You look incredible.ReplyCancel

  • Sandrine Photographer - Happy birthday !

    Great photoshoot, and your writing made me think : I’m about to turn 37, and all the things you get in your 30’s are the one I expect my 40’s to bring me… but in the end, indeed and just like you, I do feel more comfident and definitely feel on my way to be #ShamelesslyFeminine.

    Give me 3 more years, that’s probably what I’ll be for sure :)

    Happy birthday again, and a kiss from France :)ReplyCancel

  • Julie Feinstein-Kelly - Happy Birthday Jen! Stunning at 40!ReplyCancel

  • Dana Laymon - Happiest of Birthdays, Jen! You are truly an inspiration and have helped put the pep back into my step when it comes to my career and helping women! You are so beautiful and hope I can feel that comfortable one day!ReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth Zimmerman - Loving these photos!! So beautiful! Happy Birthday Jen!ReplyCancel

    • Stacey - Beautiful photos!!!!! Happy 40th and wishing you only amazing, exciting things to come….. xoxoxox

      P.S. I know from experience that the 40’s decade is the best yet!!!!


  • Christine Graber - Happy Birthday Jen…Your are fabulous and 40!!! Amazing :-)ReplyCancel

  • Diana MacDougall - Congratulations to you for making it to 40. It only gets better. You’re definitely on the right path!! ❤️❤️ReplyCancel

  • ravi - fought loved laughed
    smiled cried sighed
    failed succeeded tried
    held. holding fort
    hurrah it’s the
    naughty fortiesReplyCancel

  • Courtney - happy birthday I hope you have a wonderful one! thank you for being so inspiringReplyCancel

  • Mandy - Love it! Happy birthday! xoReplyCancel

  • Erica Peerenboom - Happy Birthday beautiful! 40s rock!!ReplyCancel

  • Philip - Feliz Cumpleaños Jen! I am 66 now, and believe me, it just keeps getting better. I am certain that it will for you too. ( I would post pix of myself, but first someone must iron the wrinkles out of my birthday suit 😉ReplyCancel

  • Tina S - Happy Birthday, Jen!

    I’m 50, and I love it! You’re going to be amazing. I’m the most comfortable that I’ve ever been in my life.ReplyCancel

  • Stephanie - Happy birthday!! You make 40 look fabulous. :)ReplyCancel

  • John Naccarato - Enjoy your 40’s. It’s the NEW 30’s. Have a great birthday! Thank you for what you do in the photographic community and II hope Tonya and I can see you at some point in the near future :-)ReplyCancel

  • Jenn Gregory Photography - Happy birthday to my friend and mentor! You look beautiful at 40 and I hope I am just as fabulous as you are when I turn 40 in a few years! Thanks for all of the knowledge and tips I’ve learned from you as a boudoir photographer! #shamelesslyFeminine #GirlbossReplyCancel

  • Vanessa - Happy Birthday! You look beautiful! Hope to see you soon.ReplyCancel

  • Sandy Edelstein - Happy 40th and exquisite images! I’m happy to report having just turned 49 with 50 looming in the not to distant future that I feel even more of this now than I did turning 40! Maybe I’m a late bloomer or maybe it does just keep getting better, but I have never felt more alive, more content while still being ridiculously excited about the future and quite honestly sexier then ever before. So keep on being self aware and feeling everything every minute!ReplyCancel

  • Adam Feldstain - Jen, you certainly handled it with class despite all the anxiety. Mazel tov on a fabulous shoot and keep on inspiring others.ReplyCancel

  • Travis - San Diego Boudoir Photographer - Gorgeous photos and happy birthday!ReplyCancel

  • Tim - I know I already wished you a happy birthday, but I’m just now getting around to reading this. I hope that your first few weeks into your 40’s has been an amazing experience.

    These are awesome photos of an awesome lady! :)ReplyCancel

  • Yucel - Yay 40… it really is the boudoir age… younger are too not ready.. older better get off the fence pdq.ReplyCancel

  • Tina - Happy Birthday Jen! Thank you for being an inspiration!ReplyCancel

  • Tom Henderson - We met in Atlanta (Hilton) at the Pop Photography portrait shoot. You know how to do it in front of or behind the camera!!!!
    Hope to see you again one day. If you are ever in the south I want you to work with my wife.ReplyCancel

  • Joe Tharp - Happy Birthday Jen! You look fantastic! Thanks for all your inspiration. :)ReplyCancel

  • Donnamaria - How beautiful Jen. Happy Birthday!!!!ReplyCancel

  • Gary - Happy Birthday Jen! Thanks for sharing your birthday shoot! You look great and 40looks wonderful on you!ReplyCancel

  • Duda Bueno - Yo rocks Jen, Happy birthday 😉ReplyCancel

Last spring I met an incredible woman named Sandra. Sandra came to me for a boudoir shoot after being hospitalized with brain cancer. You can learn more about Sandra from my first blog about her, HERE.

I received this email a few days ago from Sandra’s Sister:

“Hi Jen, my sister Sandra did an amazing photo shoot with you last year when she had just got out of the hospital.. Unfortunately, she has left us to heaven less than a month ago. I found her beautiful portfolio book that you created for her and I wanted to THANK YOU so much for  that. I remember you creating a blog on her that she shared with me and was hoping you can provide the link to me. We are collaborating a memorial for her in September with her friends and colleagues  because she truly was a remarkable character and has left such inspiration to hundreds of people.”

I was one of those hundreds of people.

Sandra, your time here although way too short, was incredibly meaningful. I hope you rest in peace. I will never forget you.

To my readers: If you want to leave some thoughts for Sandra and her family in the comments below, I will make sure it is seen by them. 

  • Kim G - Blessings for Sandra’s family. May you find peace in the love you have for her.ReplyCancel

  • David - My warmest thoughts and prayers go out to your family. I’ve last a mother and sister and know how hard it can be. Please stay strong and know she’s in good care now.
    Sincerely DavidReplyCancel

  • William Mock - My condolences to the family…May She Rest in Peace!ReplyCancel

  • Eliza Daniels - What a beautiful tribute to her strength and beauty. My thoughts are with her family as say goodbye <3ReplyCancel

  • Al Vandever - My heart is always saddened when I hear of the passing of someone so young and with so much life ahead of them. My sincere and profound condolences to Sandra’s friends and family.


  • Laura Luongo - I am so very very sorry for the loss of Sandra. May her memories live on and she will live in your hearts for ever and ever.

    While I feel a great sorrow for you, I am glad for you that you have the legacy of her pictures. They will provide you a wonderful memory and a great comfort.

    Whenever I hear of someone losing their battle, of someone who has lost a loved one to cancer, my heart is always filled with sadness.

    My deepest condolences to you and your family. LauraReplyCancel

  • Rick Steverson - Our family’s’ deepest sympathies for your loss. From looking at her image you can see that she was a beautiful earthly expression of God’s grace and love.ReplyCancel

  • Cathy nance - My sympathies for you and your family. It is a comfort to have beautiful photos to remember someone by.ReplyCancel

  • Kim Pedersen - The story went all the way over the ocean to Europe.

    I was touched and inspired by Sandras story, and the way she handled her situation with great strength and beauty.

    I am sadened to read that she has passed away in such a Young age.

    My sincere condolences to Sandras Family and friends and anyone who knew her.

    Sincerely Kim Pedersen, DenmarkReplyCancel

  • Ron Smith - Always a sad day when someone you get to know on such an intimate level passes away. Thoughts and prayers to the family.ReplyCancel

  • Mona-Marie Kuceluk - I am so saddened to hear this news….I had the privilege of meeting Sandra and her son in the Spring of 2014 and then again in the Fall of that year, as part of the Shoots for a Cure association. I found her to have the most positive energy on our photo shoots – and I was amazed by her strength, charm, dignity, humor, and grace.

    The world has lost an incredible young woman and Heaven has gained a very special angel. May God hold her in the palm of His hands and may she rest in peace. Sincere condolences to her entire family and friends for your deep loss.
    In sympathy,

    • Sophia Glomann - Thank you Mona, my sister was a true fighter and inspired so many people around her. I’ve seen the pictures from Shoots for The Cure. If you have a link or blog, please send it to me:

  • Celeste Brown - It is amazing how a day of beauty can lift your spirits when you are in pain or ill from a chronic ailment. My daughter, Sarah Celeste, passed away 2 months ago at the age of 30. One day we always had to cherish is when Sue Bryce did a session with Sarah. My daughter and husband loved those images. My heart goes out to Sandra’s family as I now know exactly the intense grief of losing a loved one so early. The images bring back memories that are a great comfort to me. I hope Sandra’s family is finding some comfort as well. Photographers should always remember how important those images are to families. I hope the family finds comfort during this season of great sorrow and grief. – Celeste Brown –ReplyCancel

  • Sophia Glomann - Thank you everyone for all your heartfelt condolences. Thank you Jen for capturing her beauty in the most natural way. My sister is missed so much, and truly inspired all of us in her own unique way xoxoxoReplyCancel

Today is July 4th. Happy Birthday America! 

Birthdays are often met with great joy and celebration. We love making our friends and loved ones feel good on their special day. I wonder though, how do you feel when it comes to your own birthday?

Me, I would rather it pass without notice. No parties or hoopla for me. I hate being the center of attention and getting older is something that sadly, I am struggling with.

Today marks one month until my August 4th birthday. I am turning 40! Fucking 40! How did that happen?

I am often reminded of 40 by my growing number of gray hairs, the struggle to stay fit, and the amount of time I say to my kids, “When I was your age…”. I always thought I would be the type to grow old gracefully. Accept the grays and wrinkles and enjoy them since they were earned.

Well, now that I am faced with my own 40th birthday, I only have ONE thing to say. FUCK THAT! 

I’m not saying I won’t grow old gracefully. I just want to redefine graceful. I am going to own 40 and beyond in my own way.

Starting today and for the next month, I am going to post an image to instagram every day that represents how I feel at 40. What makes me #ShamelesslyFeminine in this time of my life.

No more hiding in the corner. This year, I am going to celebrate who I am!  Follow me on Instagram by clicking HERE! I will be using the hashtag #My40thF*ckingBirthday

Happy Birthday America – After 239 years, you are still one pretty hot chick!



PS…I found these candles – I think they might just do the trick this year!

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  • Tony - Forty is a great age, live the live to the full then when youre my age yo will say I wish I was fucking forty again. lol
    Love your site, take care.

  • Sandra - I’m “only” 31 yet, but already I’m torn between “omg, I’m getting old/ too old for this kind of stuff” and “Oh my, I’m 31 already and what have I achieved?!”. That being said I don’t have kids yet and it’s a topic I spend too much time thinking about right now *lol*
    Anyway, I guess getting older isn’t easy for most people, no matter how old you are *lol*ReplyCancel

  • Leslie F - LOVE this. I’m 1 year 10 months and 8 days behind you. I think I did the math right… lol how did we get here so damn fast? I remember being my little girl’s age (5) and looking at my mom wondering what it’s like to be THAT old?!? Now I am, actually older than she was as a mother and I’m in shock that the big 4-O is around the corner. My mental picture of myself is what I looked like in college then I look in the mirror and have to take a second look to realize, I am no longer the wrinkle free, endlessly energetic, can operate on minimal sleep I once was. I can’t drink red wine anymore cause it gives me headaches, Merry-go-rounds make nausiously dizzy and I find myself comparing my youth and how it used to be to how these crazy kids have it today. I have becom my mother!

    Happy almost Fu*king 40! 😉ReplyCancel

  • Matt - I hope your beloved throws you a kickass 40th birthday party! it is indeed a milestone time in life. You will be officially an adult. :)ReplyCancel

  • Henry - Hi Jen,

    Happy 40th birthday. No one would believe you are turning 40 because you do not look a day over 30.

    Enjoy the day. Party, celebrate, have fun.

    40 ain’t old (says the guy who will be turning 65 a few days before you turn 40).

    So from one Leo to another…HAPPY 40TH BIRTHDAY!

  • Mary murray - Dear Jen,
    I find women in their 40s to actually be the most beautiful and confident. You think you are old you are not! You are more comfortable and beautiful in your own skin than any 20 year old!
    Totally celebrate you’ve made it this far and joined the ranks of all the other 40 something beauties like Cameron Diaz,Jennifer Anniston and many,many others.ReplyCancel

Recently, I made a mistake.

I didn’t know I was making it at the time. There wasn’t one clear moment of mistake making. It was more like an avalanche that started off small and gained momentum over some time. It wasn’t until I was faced with this big mess in front of me, that I realized the errors in my ways.

The big mess, well that was me (isn’t it usually). My mistake, was everyone else.

No, I am not blaming everyone else. I alone made the mistake. However it was because I was listening to everyone else.

To know anything about me is to know I always trust my gut, after all,  it’s always right.

My gut is a compass that always shows me the clearest direction. I’ve always listened to it, trusted it and been thankful for it. Sadly, the last few months, my compass has been off. When I think I am heading the right way, I’m not. When I look at the mess in the mirror, I ask the woman I see, “How did this happen?”.

I made a mistake. I let other peoples action, thoughts, opinions and comments confuse my direction. I’ve worked so hard to be on my path. My individual path. The one I have worked to identify and still continue to tweak. The path that I work so hard for and on. The one that sings to me and makes me feel whole and complete. I stepped off the damn path. Fuck.

It feels so off and icky, like turbulence on my insides. So today, I get back on the path. Holding true to me and what makes me happy and fulfilled. I made myself (the mess) that promise. To unmess myself. Listen to my gut and follow it again.

As a business owner, this is so important. We all need a reminder sometimes what we are working towards.



This has happened to me before. Getting distracted by what others are doing. Trying to compete and not knowing my place. It wasn’t until I really stopped, and listened to what my gut really truly had to say that I found my uniqueness.

This industry, in fact this LIFE is not about competition. It’s about uniqueness. Stop trying to be like everyone else, and be YOU. That’s what clients, friends, loved ones WANT from you.

Ironically, it’s not easy to just be yourself. So I will forgive myself, and continue to remember that the journey itself is indeed the destination.



  • Kate McFadzen - This was EXACTLY what I needed to wake up to this morning. As an emerging photographer, I struggle with following my own heart instead of comparing myself to the photographers around me (and there are maaaaaany). I try to rally myself and say it’s better to build a brand around who I am as a person, because I’ve found that really draws people. I often think “if I only had ____ that ____ has” or “maybe I should shoot more like ______”, etc. I need to focus on my heart compass more. It’s inspiring and comforting to know that even seasoned industry professionals that I look up to struggle with the same things. Jen, your work is amazing, and your CreativeLIVE Bootcamp changed my business. I’m truly grateful. Cheers!


  • Joe - Thank you for this. This turned around my whole month.ReplyCancel

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  • Nicole - I SO needed to hear this today! I finally know exactly what I do and don’t want to shoot and have my numbers in line; I’m on track to getting the right clients, clients that value my vision, and there are people, not my clients, telling me I should do this and do that and I’m too pricey. No way! I know what I want to do and I have value!
    Thanks for this wake up!ReplyCancel

  • Kim - Love your honesty. I too have completely mucked up again. Causing myself so much self doubt. But it was exactly for the reasons you talk of – trying to be something that you’re not and feeling one has to go with what others keep saying. So I too will try to re believe in myself from today and follow what I know rather than what so many others are saying is the right path.
    Kim :)ReplyCancel

  • Shannon Davenport - I always love your honesty…thanks for making me pause to think about my own path! :-)ReplyCancel

  • Anna - Thank you for sharing Jen! Trusting our gut is a simple truth and it’s simple to not quite hear it when everyone else’s opinions/voices speak loudly. Luckily it’s also like riding a bike. We never forget how to do it. So get on and ride girl and thanks for reminding me it happens to us all.ReplyCancel

  • Graham Riddell - Jen,

    If you’re honest with yourself and you know IF you made a mistake, then that’s always good. Publicly admitting it is brave (I don’t know the mistake you made?) but I would say the pass of progress is littered with mistakes. Trying to be everything can be a real challenge, but it makes you grow exponentially and makes you a bigger person -providing the same mistake are not repeated.

    This is YOUR journey and you allow others to share it so they just have to accept that.

    Best wishes

  • Felicia - Here’s to you Jen! Keep on keeping on. You are an inspiration. I love your honesty and how real you are. Thank you for being you,simple as that!ReplyCancel

  • Rachel - Now I am intrigued, where were you heading?ReplyCancel

  • janice - thanks for this – nice to see I am not the only one who gets off track. it is so easy to compare the perfect facade that everyone presents with the incomplete insecure off track me, and when I do that I get even more off track. Really off track right now, and taking a sabatical from all of this to figure it out. but you piece helped. I know it will all come right, soon.

  • Kira Wood - I think you need to give yourself a break. As artists, I think it is natural to do this. I find myself continually loving my work, then seeing another persons work and flipping the page back and forth. Comparing mine to theirs. Seeing if mine flows how theirs flows or seeing what deal they are giving their clients. Pick yourself up and move on. As much as I love your work, I adore you even more. You are relateable in a way I have never found with other photographers. That trait alone is will never be replaceable.ReplyCancel

    • Jen Rozenbaum - Thank you Kira! Love to you as well.ReplyCancel

  • Alicia Heaney - Exactly my struggle! As a recent college grad I’ve spent so many years trying to please professors and change my style to accommodate their needs and style preferences for a good grade. I can’t wait to really push my business and work on my own with no influence but following my heart and my gut.ReplyCancel

  • Jen - Absolutely needed this today! It’s so easy to compete and compare and fall off your own path. THANK YOU for the reminder to BE ME! You’ve got this, Jen Rozenbaum! :)ReplyCancel

  • Gord Klimchuk - I think we all fall into this trap. We look at other photographers’ work for inspiration, but instead we end up comparing our work to theirs. Then we think we have to change our work to be more like theirs to be successful. We then loose our own style and become “parrots” of other photographers. Instead of learning and improving our own work, we just copy the styles of others.

    Our journey should be our own road trip, not a bus tour. And anyone who can read a map and say “fuck” when they notice that they took a wrong turn, their journey will be the most enjoyable!ReplyCancel

  • Cate Scaglione - Love you, love your honesty and love your fortitude. Love that you can recognize and re-steer the ship from those shallow, superficial waters. Because not all of us always can. This is a good reminder. xoReplyCancel

  • Mandy - I love your honesty. And that you embody your mission and message. It’s so darn relatable. How any times have I forged ahead with sails filled with the wrong wind. Only to crash and burn. And like a Phoenix, rise up, in my own weird private rebirth. I’m just grateful that you always seem to hold the lantern up ahead, show your bruises and lead by example. That is such a strong message. Whatever your mistake, it had to happen to bring you to know. And I’ve no doubt that you will continue on your path and do great things. xoReplyCancel

  • Jules Ferlatte - I wanted to thank you for this post for so long. I realy REALY need to understand and assimilante that.

    Thank you JenReplyCancel

  • Donnamaria - You are in my head, Jen. Thank you for saying what I’m feeling.ReplyCancel