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Today is my 40th birthday.

I almost made it up until midnight last night. I aborted my mission to do so around 11:35. I admit, I started feeling a little anxious. Not about turing 40, but about letting go of my 30’s.

My 30’s were busy, fun, exciting…. predictable. When I turned 30 I was a newlywed and pregnant with my daughter. We had just bought a new home. It was such a brilliant time of my life. When I turned 30 I didn’t have any anxiety. I was on the path I wanted to be on. I knew what I wanted from my 30’s. Maybe even what was expected of them.

40 feels different. 

 

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This decade doesn’t have the same road map. I am done having children. I am done buying houses. Done knowing what is next. I have NO CLUE what my 40’s holds for me. At times I get butterflies in my stomach about it. At first I think it’s anxiety, when I really think about it though, it’s not. It’s an anxious excitement.

Yes, I said it. I am excited about being 40!

 

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I’ve spent the last month counting down my birthday and celebrating the things that make me feel #ShamelesslyFeminine. One thing I do know is that 40 will bring more of that for me. I am finally feeling more comfortable in my skin than I have ever felt. I don’t mean that in a superficial way. I mean it in an all around knowing who I am sort of way. I am more confident in myself and my abilities to do and be what I want. It’s freeing.

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I have also realized that being #ShamelesslyFeminine isn’t always easy. It’s not always a pair of shoes and a new lipstick (although sometimes it is!). #ShamelesslyFeminine is a feeling. It’s an emotion. It’s just like all other emotions. Sometimes you feel it more than others. Sometimes you lose touch with it completely and other times it just oozes out of your pores.

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Today, on my 40th birthday, I feel many emotions. Happy, grateful, blessed, excited and yes… #ShamelesslyFeminine.

Thank you to my Friend Mike Allebach and my Beauty team of Diana and Toni for helping me celebrate my birthday with an awesome photo shoot. Love you guys!!

Hope you all have a beautiful day!

xo,

Jen

 

 

  • Amanda-lee Seely - Happy Birthday! Love you! I can’t thank you enough for always being there for me and always having the “answers” to every problem I have ever had!
    xoxo
    Amanda-leeReplyCancel

  • Kurt Krueger - Lovely photos. It looks like it was a nice birthday suit shoot! :)ReplyCancel

  • Kiran - Happy birthdayReplyCancel

  • Mary Gajda - Happy Birthday Jen! In two years I’ll be 50 believe it or not, and I hope to post a similar thing after my shoot with you some day!ReplyCancel

  • Kristina Houser - HAPPY BIRTHDAY Jen! You are such an inspiration! I am turning 30 this year and just bought a home, doing the baby thing etc. Looking so forward to the decade, and beyond. Be blessed and keep rocking on girl! You look incredible.ReplyCancel

  • Sandrine Photographer - Happy birthday !

    Great photoshoot, and your writing made me think : I’m about to turn 37, and all the things you get in your 30’s are the one I expect my 40’s to bring me… but in the end, indeed and just like you, I do feel more comfident and definitely feel on my way to be #ShamelesslyFeminine.

    Give me 3 more years, that’s probably what I’ll be for sure :)

    Happy birthday again, and a kiss from France :)ReplyCancel

  • Julie Feinstein-Kelly - Happy Birthday Jen! Stunning at 40!ReplyCancel

  • Dana Laymon - Happiest of Birthdays, Jen! You are truly an inspiration and have helped put the pep back into my step when it comes to my career and helping women! You are so beautiful and hope I can feel that comfortable one day!ReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth Zimmerman - Loving these photos!! So beautiful! Happy Birthday Jen!ReplyCancel

    • Stacey - Beautiful photos!!!!! Happy 40th and wishing you only amazing, exciting things to come….. xoxoxox

      P.S. I know from experience that the 40’s decade is the best yet!!!!

      StaceyReplyCancel

  • Christine Graber - Happy Birthday Jen…Your are fabulous and 40!!! Amazing :-)ReplyCancel

  • Diana MacDougall - Congratulations to you for making it to 40. It only gets better. You’re definitely on the right path!! ❤️❤️ReplyCancel

  • ravi - fought loved laughed
    smiled cried sighed
    failed succeeded tried
    held. holding fort
    hurrah it’s the
    naughty fortiesReplyCancel

  • Courtney - happy birthday I hope you have a wonderful one! thank you for being so inspiringReplyCancel

  • Mandy - Love it! Happy birthday! xoReplyCancel

  • Erica Peerenboom - Happy Birthday beautiful! 40s rock!!ReplyCancel

  • Philip - Feliz Cumpleaños Jen! I am 66 now, and believe me, it just keeps getting better. I am certain that it will for you too. ( I would post pix of myself, but first someone must iron the wrinkles out of my birthday suit ;-)ReplyCancel

  • Tina S - Happy Birthday, Jen!

    I’m 50, and I love it! You’re going to be amazing. I’m the most comfortable that I’ve ever been in my life.ReplyCancel

  • Stephanie - Happy birthday!! You make 40 look fabulous. :)ReplyCancel

  • John Naccarato - Enjoy your 40’s. It’s the NEW 30’s. Have a great birthday! Thank you for what you do in the photographic community and II hope Tonya and I can see you at some point in the near future :-)ReplyCancel

  • Jenn Gregory Photography - Happy birthday to my friend and mentor! You look beautiful at 40 and I hope I am just as fabulous as you are when I turn 40 in a few years! Thanks for all of the knowledge and tips I’ve learned from you as a boudoir photographer! #shamelesslyFeminine #GirlbossReplyCancel

  • Vanessa - Happy Birthday! You look beautiful! Hope to see you soon.ReplyCancel

  • Sandy Edelstein - Happy 40th and exquisite images! I’m happy to report having just turned 49 with 50 looming in the not to distant future that I feel even more of this now than I did turning 40! Maybe I’m a late bloomer or maybe it does just keep getting better, but I have never felt more alive, more content while still being ridiculously excited about the future and quite honestly sexier then ever before. So keep on being self aware and feeling everything every minute!ReplyCancel

  • Tim - I know I already wished you a happy birthday, but I’m just now getting around to reading this. I hope that your first few weeks into your 40’s has been an amazing experience.

    These are awesome photos of an awesome lady! :)ReplyCancel

  • Yucel - Yay 40… it really is the boudoir age… younger are too not ready.. older better get off the fence pdq.ReplyCancel

Last spring I met an incredible woman named Sandra. Sandra came to me for a boudoir shoot after being hospitalized with brain cancer. You can learn more about Sandra from my first blog about her, HERE.

I received this email a few days ago from Sandra’s Sister:

“Hi Jen, my sister Sandra did an amazing photo shoot with you last year when she had just got out of the hospital.. Unfortunately, she has left us to heaven less than a month ago. I found her beautiful portfolio book that you created for her and I wanted to THANK YOU so much for  that. I remember you creating a blog on her that she shared with me and was hoping you can provide the link to me. We are collaborating a memorial for her in September with her friends and colleagues  because she truly was a remarkable character and has left such inspiration to hundreds of people.”

I was one of those hundreds of people.

Sandra, your time here although way too short, was incredibly meaningful. I hope you rest in peace. I will never forget you.

To my readers: If you want to leave some thoughts for Sandra and her family in the comments below, I will make sure it is seen by them. 

  • Kim G - Blessings for Sandra’s family. May you find peace in the love you have for her.ReplyCancel

  • David - My warmest thoughts and prayers go out to your family. I’ve last a mother and sister and know how hard it can be. Please stay strong and know she’s in good care now.
    Sincerely DavidReplyCancel

  • William Mock - My condolences to the family…May She Rest in Peace!ReplyCancel

  • Eliza Daniels - What a beautiful tribute to her strength and beauty. My thoughts are with her family as say goodbye <3ReplyCancel

  • Al Vandever - My heart is always saddened when I hear of the passing of someone so young and with so much life ahead of them. My sincere and profound condolences to Sandra’s friends and family.

    AlReplyCancel

  • Laura Luongo - I am so very very sorry for the loss of Sandra. May her memories live on and she will live in your hearts for ever and ever.

    While I feel a great sorrow for you, I am glad for you that you have the legacy of her pictures. They will provide you a wonderful memory and a great comfort.

    Whenever I hear of someone losing their battle, of someone who has lost a loved one to cancer, my heart is always filled with sadness.

    My deepest condolences to you and your family. LauraReplyCancel

  • Rick Steverson - Our family’s’ deepest sympathies for your loss. From looking at her image you can see that she was a beautiful earthly expression of God’s grace and love.ReplyCancel

  • Cathy nance - My sympathies for you and your family. It is a comfort to have beautiful photos to remember someone by.ReplyCancel

  • Kim Pedersen - The story went all the way over the ocean to Europe.

    I was touched and inspired by Sandras story, and the way she handled her situation with great strength and beauty.

    I am sadened to read that she has passed away in such a Young age.

    My sincere condolences to Sandras Family and friends and anyone who knew her.

    Sincerely Kim Pedersen, DenmarkReplyCancel

  • Ron Smith - Always a sad day when someone you get to know on such an intimate level passes away. Thoughts and prayers to the family.ReplyCancel

  • Mona-Marie Kuceluk - I am so saddened to hear this news….I had the privilege of meeting Sandra and her son in the Spring of 2014 and then again in the Fall of that year, as part of the Shoots for a Cure association. I found her to have the most positive energy on our photo shoots – and I was amazed by her strength, charm, dignity, humor, and grace.

    The world has lost an incredible young woman and Heaven has gained a very special angel. May God hold her in the palm of His hands and may she rest in peace. Sincere condolences to her entire family and friends for your deep loss.
    In sympathy,
    MonaReplyCancel

    • Sophia Glomann - Thank you Mona, my sister was a true fighter and inspired so many people around her. I’ve seen the pictures from Shoots for The Cure. If you have a link or blog, please send it to me: sophiaglomann@gmail.com.ReplyCancel

  • Celeste Brown - It is amazing how a day of beauty can lift your spirits when you are in pain or ill from a chronic ailment. My daughter, Sarah Celeste, passed away 2 months ago at the age of 30. One day we always had to cherish is when Sue Bryce did a session with Sarah. My daughter and husband loved those images. My heart goes out to Sandra’s family as I now know exactly the intense grief of losing a loved one so early. The images bring back memories that are a great comfort to me. I hope Sandra’s family is finding some comfort as well. Photographers should always remember how important those images are to families. I hope the family finds comfort during this season of great sorrow and grief. – Celeste Brown -ReplyCancel

  • Sophia Glomann - Thank you everyone for all your heartfelt condolences. Thank you Jen for capturing her beauty in the most natural way. My sister is missed so much, and truly inspired all of us in her own unique way xoxoxoReplyCancel

Today is July 4th. Happy Birthday America! 

Birthdays are often met with great joy and celebration. We love making our friends and loved ones feel good on their special day. I wonder though, how do you feel when it comes to your own birthday?

Me, I would rather it pass without notice. No parties or hoopla for me. I hate being the center of attention and getting older is something that sadly, I am struggling with.

Today marks one month until my August 4th birthday. I am turning 40! Fucking 40! How did that happen?

I am often reminded of 40 by my growing number of gray hairs, the struggle to stay fit, and the amount of time I say to my kids, “When I was your age…”. I always thought I would be the type to grow old gracefully. Accept the grays and wrinkles and enjoy them since they were earned.

Well, now that I am faced with my own 40th birthday, I only have ONE thing to say. FUCK THAT! 

I’m not saying I won’t grow old gracefully. I just want to redefine graceful. I am going to own 40 and beyond in my own way.

Starting today and for the next month, I am going to post an image to instagram every day that represents how I feel at 40. What makes me #ShamelesslyFeminine in this time of my life.

No more hiding in the corner. This year, I am going to celebrate who I am!  Follow me on Instagram by clicking HERE! I will be using the hashtag #My40thF*ckingBirthday

Happy Birthday America – After 239 years, you are still one pretty hot chick!

xo,

Jen

PS…I found these candles – I think they might just do the trick this year!

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  • Tony - Forty is a great age, live the live to the full then when youre my age yo will say I wish I was fucking forty again. lol
    Love your site, take care.
    TonyReplyCancel

  • Sandra - I’m “only” 31 yet, but already I’m torn between “omg, I’m getting old/ too old for this kind of stuff” and “Oh my, I’m 31 already and what have I achieved?!”. That being said I don’t have kids yet and it’s a topic I spend too much time thinking about right now *lol*
    Anyway, I guess getting older isn’t easy for most people, no matter how old you are *lol*ReplyCancel

  • Leslie F - LOVE this. I’m 1 year 10 months and 8 days behind you. I think I did the math right… lol how did we get here so damn fast? I remember being my little girl’s age (5) and looking at my mom wondering what it’s like to be THAT old?!? Now I am, actually older than she was as a mother and I’m in shock that the big 4-O is around the corner. My mental picture of myself is what I looked like in college then I look in the mirror and have to take a second look to realize, I am no longer the wrinkle free, endlessly energetic, can operate on minimal sleep I once was. I can’t drink red wine anymore cause it gives me headaches, Merry-go-rounds make nausiously dizzy and I find myself comparing my youth and how it used to be to how these crazy kids have it today. I have becom my mother!

    Happy almost Fu*king 40! ;)ReplyCancel

  • Matt - I hope your beloved throws you a kickass 40th birthday party! it is indeed a milestone time in life. You will be officially an adult. :)ReplyCancel

  • Henry - Hi Jen,

    Happy 40th birthday. No one would believe you are turning 40 because you do not look a day over 30.

    Enjoy the day. Party, celebrate, have fun.

    40 ain’t old (says the guy who will be turning 65 a few days before you turn 40).

    So from one Leo to another…HAPPY 40TH BIRTHDAY!
    HenryReplyCancel

  • Mary murray - Dear Jen,
    I find women in their 40s to actually be the most beautiful and confident. You think you are old you are not! You are more comfortable and beautiful in your own skin than any 20 year old!
    Totally celebrate you’ve made it this far and joined the ranks of all the other 40 something beauties like Cameron Diaz,Jennifer Anniston and many,many others.ReplyCancel

Recently, I made a mistake.

I didn’t know I was making it at the time. There wasn’t one clear moment of mistake making. It was more like an avalanche that started off small and gained momentum over some time. It wasn’t until I was faced with this big mess in front of me, that I realized the errors in my ways.

The big mess, well that was me (isn’t it usually). My mistake, was everyone else.

No, I am not blaming everyone else. I alone made the mistake. However it was because I was listening to everyone else.

To know anything about me is to know I always trust my gut, after all,  it’s always right.

My gut is a compass that always shows me the clearest direction. I’ve always listened to it, trusted it and been thankful for it. Sadly, the last few months, my compass has been off. When I think I am heading the right way, I’m not. When I look at the mess in the mirror, I ask the woman I see, “How did this happen?”.

I made a mistake. I let other peoples action, thoughts, opinions and comments confuse my direction. I’ve worked so hard to be on my path. My individual path. The one I have worked to identify and still continue to tweak. The path that I work so hard for and on. The one that sings to me and makes me feel whole and complete. I stepped off the damn path. Fuck.

It feels so off and icky, like turbulence on my insides. So today, I get back on the path. Holding true to me and what makes me happy and fulfilled. I made myself (the mess) that promise. To unmess myself. Listen to my gut and follow it again.

As a business owner, this is so important. We all need a reminder sometimes what we are working towards.

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This has happened to me before. Getting distracted by what others are doing. Trying to compete and not knowing my place. It wasn’t until I really stopped, and listened to what my gut really truly had to say that I found my uniqueness.

This industry, in fact this LIFE is not about competition. It’s about uniqueness. Stop trying to be like everyone else, and be YOU. That’s what clients, friends, loved ones WANT from you.

Ironically, it’s not easy to just be yourself. So I will forgive myself, and continue to remember that the journey itself is indeed the destination.

xo,

Jen

  • Kate McFadzen - This was EXACTLY what I needed to wake up to this morning. As an emerging photographer, I struggle with following my own heart instead of comparing myself to the photographers around me (and there are maaaaaany). I try to rally myself and say it’s better to build a brand around who I am as a person, because I’ve found that really draws people. I often think “if I only had ____ that ____ has” or “maybe I should shoot more like ______”, etc. I need to focus on my heart compass more. It’s inspiring and comforting to know that even seasoned industry professionals that I look up to struggle with the same things. Jen, your work is amazing, and your CreativeLIVE Bootcamp changed my business. I’m truly grateful. Cheers!

    -KateReplyCancel

  • Joe - Thank you for this. This turned around my whole month.ReplyCancel

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  • Nicole - I SO needed to hear this today! I finally know exactly what I do and don’t want to shoot and have my numbers in line; I’m on track to getting the right clients, clients that value my vision, and there are people, not my clients, telling me I should do this and do that and I’m too pricey. No way! I know what I want to do and I have value!
    Thanks for this wake up!ReplyCancel

  • Kim - Love your honesty. I too have completely mucked up again. Causing myself so much self doubt. But it was exactly for the reasons you talk of – trying to be something that you’re not and feeling one has to go with what others keep saying. So I too will try to re believe in myself from today and follow what I know rather than what so many others are saying is the right path.
    Kim :)ReplyCancel

  • Shannon Davenport - I always love your honesty…thanks for making me pause to think about my own path! :-)ReplyCancel

  • Anna - Thank you for sharing Jen! Trusting our gut is a simple truth and it’s simple to not quite hear it when everyone else’s opinions/voices speak loudly. Luckily it’s also like riding a bike. We never forget how to do it. So get on and ride girl and thanks for reminding me it happens to us all.ReplyCancel

  • Graham Riddell - Jen,

    If you’re honest with yourself and you know IF you made a mistake, then that’s always good. Publicly admitting it is brave (I don’t know the mistake you made?) but I would say the pass of progress is littered with mistakes. Trying to be everything can be a real challenge, but it makes you grow exponentially and makes you a bigger person -providing the same mistake are not repeated.

    This is YOUR journey and you allow others to share it so they just have to accept that.

    Best wishes
    Graham.ReplyCancel

  • Felicia - Here’s to you Jen! Keep on keeping on. You are an inspiration. I love your honesty and how real you are. Thank you for being you,simple as that!ReplyCancel

  • Rachel - Now I am intrigued, where were you heading?ReplyCancel

  • janice - thanks for this – nice to see I am not the only one who gets off track. it is so easy to compare the perfect facade that everyone presents with the incomplete insecure off track me, and when I do that I get even more off track. Really off track right now, and taking a sabatical from all of this to figure it out. but you piece helped. I know it will all come right, soon.
    janiceReplyCancel

  • Kira Wood - I think you need to give yourself a break. As artists, I think it is natural to do this. I find myself continually loving my work, then seeing another persons work and flipping the page back and forth. Comparing mine to theirs. Seeing if mine flows how theirs flows or seeing what deal they are giving their clients. Pick yourself up and move on. As much as I love your work, I adore you even more. You are relateable in a way I have never found with other photographers. That trait alone is will never be replaceable.ReplyCancel

    • Jen Rozenbaum - Thank you Kira! Love to you as well.ReplyCancel

  • Alicia Heaney - Exactly my struggle! As a recent college grad I’ve spent so many years trying to please professors and change my style to accommodate their needs and style preferences for a good grade. I can’t wait to really push my business and work on my own with no influence but following my heart and my gut.ReplyCancel

  • Jen - Absolutely needed this today! It’s so easy to compete and compare and fall off your own path. THANK YOU for the reminder to BE ME! You’ve got this, Jen Rozenbaum! :)ReplyCancel

  • Gord Klimchuk - I think we all fall into this trap. We look at other photographers’ work for inspiration, but instead we end up comparing our work to theirs. Then we think we have to change our work to be more like theirs to be successful. We then loose our own style and become “parrots” of other photographers. Instead of learning and improving our own work, we just copy the styles of others.

    Our journey should be our own road trip, not a bus tour. And anyone who can read a map and say “fuck” when they notice that they took a wrong turn, their journey will be the most enjoyable!ReplyCancel

  • Cate Scaglione - Love you, love your honesty and love your fortitude. Love that you can recognize and re-steer the ship from those shallow, superficial waters. Because not all of us always can. This is a good reminder. xoReplyCancel

  • Mandy - I love your honesty. And that you embody your mission and message. It’s so darn relatable. How any times have I forged ahead with sails filled with the wrong wind. Only to crash and burn. And like a Phoenix, rise up, in my own weird private rebirth. I’m just grateful that you always seem to hold the lantern up ahead, show your bruises and lead by example. That is such a strong message. Whatever your mistake, it had to happen to bring you to know. And I’ve no doubt that you will continue on your path and do great things. xoReplyCancel

  • Jules Ferlatte - I wanted to thank you for this post for so long. I realy REALY need to understand and assimilante that.

    Thank you JenReplyCancel

  • Donnamaria - You are in my head, Jen. Thank you for saying what I’m feeling.ReplyCancel

You heard me right. All men are perverts.

At least that is what I am starting to believe that is what the world perceives. Don’t believe me? Recently I was a guest on the Dr. Drew show where we discussed a teacher who gave a “Nude” final. (Check out the full story here.)

They asked me to be a guest since I am clearly comfortable with nudity, the art of the human body and of course I offered a different opinion than those on the panel. I thought we were going to talk about nudity not being shameful, but what actually occurred surprised even me! Take a peek at the clip below:

 

 

Did you read the article? Did you see the part where no true nudity had to take place to pass the class? That every students definition of nudity might be different? I myself have photographed women without makeup on, fully clothed, that felt more naked than if they were in their underwear.  Nudity isn’t always about being naked.

Did you read the part about the sexual monster, the PERVERT that teaches the class? No, you didn’t. Because he isn’t one.

Not only did the panel (in my opinion) shame the women that were participating in the class (after all I am not sure there were strippers in the class, and if there were…??), but they shamed men too!

If you are a male boudoir photographer, take notice of this! Am I saying you can’t be a boudoir photographer, NO! I am saying however that you might find the same reaction from people when you tell them what you do.

Now, I am not a man of course… but I do have some advice from a woman to all male photographers out there to help you overcome this challenge.

1. Don’t be a pervert. Duh! Sounds obvious but you would be surprised what I hear from men in workshops I teach. Use proper words (Try bum or tush instead of ass.) Give appropriate compliments, and keep your hands off. Be respectful and gentlemanly – with a little edge. You are the photographer – she wants to hear a compliment from you, just make sure you aren’t “that guy”.

2. You have a gift women photographers DON’T have. You can see women through the eye of a man. I can’t. It sucks. I have tried over and over again but I just can’t. Use it to your advantage.

3. If a client has booked you, she already trusts you. Don’t let being a man get in the way of that trust. It’s no longer a hurdle.

4. Think about having a female assistant. You may like this idea, you may not… but just think about it. Also – I probably wouldn’t serve alcohol if it is just the two of you (but I don’t like serving alcohol anyway).

5. Have clients sign a consent agreement that says they are over 18 and they consent to having their photo taken. (Please see a lawyer in your area for this paperwork.)

6. Men are some of the best photographers I know. Keep proving the doubters wrong.

Men (and women) out there – post your best tips below to help men overcome the challenges that they face in society today.

xo,
Jen

 

  • Mark - Always have a female assistant…whether it is your wife or girlfriend, another photographer who happens to be a female, or a female intern. Boudoir is usually booked for a fiance’ or just to show what she looks like so she can remember when she is older. It is a beautiful thing….Totally agree with Jen!ReplyCancel

  • Tim Duquette - I just shot a client a couple weeks ago that told me a few things that I found helpful. On Facebook and your website, post as many reviews & testimonials as possible. She told me she read everything that everyone else wrote days before contacting me. My standard way of booking also includes a personal consult/introduction in a public place (Starbucks)so we can get a feel for each other. The combination of what she read and what she seen in person made her feel confident and safe enough to book.ReplyCancel

  • Sherman Orendorf - I always keep everything up beat and have a friend conversation going… no weird your so hot comments….. and i never touch a client/model ever!!!! so far everyone is having fun and nobody gives a crap that im a guy and short fat and balding they just want awesome pictures and a good experience doing it:-))

    great article by the way… i think its the general public that has the bad idea that guys are all pervs…. I try to change that perspective one client at a time;-)ReplyCancel

  • steven spaulding - I can’t say i’ve ever had an issue with this, but then again i’m not a pervert. I’m in it to create good work and to reinforce that my clients are beautiful people inside and out.

    what i have had a problem with is dating, I don’t look to date any clients (they are hands off) or even others in the industry, but as soon as i find someone that i like and they find out i’m a photographer they automatically assume i sleep with everyone.

    so i’ve decided not to date and just work on building up my busiess :DReplyCancel

  • Diana MacDougall - I STRONGLY suggest female assistants. After all, male doctors have them. Too many things can be misconstrued, and if you are alone, there are no witnesses to protect you. It shouldn’t even be a thought, in terms of protection all the way around.

    I had a very bad situation happen to me alone with a male “professional”. Never again.ReplyCancel

  • Marc - Jen, you know me as a tech rep. When I work with female clients I always work in conversation about my family, my wife, my girls. I talk about my oldest who wants to go into art therapy and is starting to build a portfolio. I show them that they can trust me and that we are there for them to achieve images that they want to have and share. It has proven well over time and I can honestly say it has helped clients relax and have a positive experience with a male photographer.ReplyCancel

  • Al Wright - Male doctors have female assistants because most medical assistants are female. Duh. I had to go to my doctor’s office recently for a very personal problem, and the only doctor available to see me was a woman. Did she have a male assistant? No. I don’t do much boudoir nowadays, I’m more into glamor, but in the past I did quite a lot of it, and never had a problem photographing scantily clad or nude women by myself. I always had a consult first, and have a studio I shoot in instead of a hotel room or a home. Do what’s right for you and your business, but please stop this gender-bias crap!ReplyCancel

    • Mark G - Al – I must respectfully disagree with your final statement. This isn’t gender-bias crap. This is an ongoing, real world problem for women in a biased world full of jackass men who seem to think it is their God-given right to harass, abuse, and worse to any woman they see. As a proud father of daughters, I am all for doing whatever it takes to make the client/model comfortable. In the litigious U.S., I am all for taking reasonable steps to protect myself as well, so having someone with me while shooting is a great idea.ReplyCancel

  • Every Model Has Stories | Pixel Dust - […] Rozenbaum also covered the subject. NY Boudoir Photographer | All Men are Perverts, well that can be the […]ReplyCancel

  • Lauren - I would like to just chime in here… I went to college in New York, and although it wasn’t an art school, I was studying Digital Art and Design, and had to take foundations my first year. One of the classes in the foundations course was figure drawing. At the end of foundations, we had to draw ourselves, life sized and naked. When everyone brought their drawings in, NO ONE had a full frontal, NO ONE showed any private parts. It was very tasteful, and everyone portrayed themselves, naked. It was nice to see how everyone saw themselves naked, and how everyone understood this was about portraying yourself, and not being dirty. I think the class is fine, and I think what the professor was requiring is fine. The parents, are overreacting. Also, these are not “kids” they are adults who are furthering their education. I hate how we are now all of a sudden in this padded wall world where these things are looked down upon. Thanks for sharing this, Jen!ReplyCancel

  • Daniel Whitaker - I spend a lot of time listening to model’s stories. Those are eye opening. Listening to clients can help too.ReplyCancel

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  • Rafael Maduro - I’m just starting in Boudoir photography, i had researched a lot and this is what i came as a workflow, i partner with an renown makeup artist, she is just wonderful and i’m taking full advantage of her well known reputation, people already know me from corporate cinematography but i wanted to do photography as well and decided to challenge myself, to bring the stories with the photos as well as i did with my documentaries. i found very disrespectful to be touching a model, client, that’s why your female assistant or the make up artist (female in this case) is there for, i just don’t think about any great deal of them naked or in lingerie, their eyes, and gestures tell the story and i just try to capture that, the model release is mandatory and i don’t like to share their photos since i live in a small island, so my clients rather want all their photos to be as private as possible and i just respect that, i was thinking to hire a model for public portfolio what are you thoughts on that guys?ReplyCancel

  • Jonathan - Totally agree with you, the problem is in the eye of the person judging the art.ReplyCancel

  • Joe Tharp - Great advice for male photographers. Always treat your clients with respect and make it a fun experience for them. Ladies deserve to be pampered.ReplyCancel

  • Mike - I agree with everyone who says have an assistant, I would like to add don’t be afraid of your client bringing a friend with them. Make it a “girls” day out. While you are shooting your client they can watch or even get hair and make up done. Regardless, the friend will help client feel more relaxed which leads to a better session.ReplyCancel

  • Jameel - I know some men are like that. But, I am not one. I take a very professional approach. When I do an boudoir or nude shoot I have aonther woman present. I want my client to feel very comfortable and relex. It makes the shoot so much easier. All women have the parts. Some just have different height, shade, shape, etc……ReplyCancel

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