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As a women with a busy life, every night when I lay my head down to sleep I check the trending topics on Facebook. Not because I give a shit about any Kardashian and what they are up to. I check it because honestly, Facebook has become my news source in this modern day and age.

Last night, when I checked the topics I saw one that said “Ghostbusters: Movie’s Trailer Is Most Disliked in YouTube History”. Being a child of the 80’s and a huge Ghostbusters fan, clearly I had to check it out. I immediately called up the trailer

The movie had such a familiar, fun feel. They have the hearse, NYC backdrop, amazing graphics and green slime. The trailer made me laugh and smile. The characters are essentially the same, after all they are based on the original 4. There’s really only one major difference I can find in this movie from the last.

The Ghostbusters are women. 

Now I am not saying this is going to be an Emmy award winning movie by any means, but it was far from awful looking!!  The cast, Melissa McCarthy, Kristen Wiig, Kate McKinnon, Leslie Jones, and Chris Hemsworth is solid. If you don’t laugh when these women are on screen, you might want to check your pulse.

I turned to my husband when the trailer ended with a confused look on my face. I said “That actually looks pretty good!” He agreed. I then commented, “I think it has so many dislikes… because the Ghostbusters are… women.” He agreed again.

I am dumbfounded by this.

Yes ok, one can argue it’s just a little movie and I shouldn’t take it so seriously. Let’s break this down though. As of March 15, 2015 Google estimates  there are 81,941,760 videos currently on youtube. (and that was a year ago!) 81 MILLION videos and THIS one is the most disliked in history? 

Is it just a movie? Maybe. For me, it has served as a reminder of how women are still fighting to be who they want to be without any shame. Poor Lucille Ball must be rolling in her grave at the awful outpouring of hate towards this movie and the women in it. It’s a sad representation of the old fashioned thinking that still strangely exists in 2016.

In a day and age where we can possibly conceive a woman as president, there is still discomfort in a woman being funny or a woman doing a “man’s job”.  It’s such an old, exhausting story. Isn’t it time for a new one?  A story where women can be and do whatever they want!

Women, it’s up to US to rewrite the story, after all.. we can do anything we put our minds to! How will you change the worlds mind today?

xo,

Jen

 

 

 

 

 

 

I believe every woman can celebrate her unique femininity, shamelessly. This is what I live for. It’s why I am a photographer. It’s how I live my own life. It influences how I parent my daughter.

When you come to me and shed your clothing and I photograph you, it’s part of the process of living shamlessly. I offer a safe and wonderful place that allows you to express your unique femininity without any judgements. In fact, just the opposite. With many praises. It is an experience that I have seen be life changing over and over again.

It offers you self confidence, freedom, and a retraining of your brain that you can do something daring and good things come of it. I hear from women over and over that they want to do this, they NEED this – but something is stopping them.

Well now, I am taking away at least one large excuse.

Money.

This summer I am once again offering 10 spots for boudoir shoots that I call “Name your own price shoots.” (I did this two years ago and it was a huge hit!)

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That’s right!! Email me what you are looking for in a shoot and what you want to pay. It’s that simple. No reasonable offer will be refused. If I can’t photograph you for what you offer, I will come back with a package that will hopefully work for both of us. (edit: After some consideration I realize that I will most certainly lose money on shoots less than $500. All offer should be $500 or above). As a reference, my standard shoots start at $999 and include a 1 hour shoot, professional makeup and 10 digital images of your choice fully edited. (You can also book standard packages as well!)

There are a few guidelines to take into consideration:

1. I am starting by offering 10 slots from now until July 28, 2016.

2. I HIGHLY recommend you have your makeup done by my staff. It’s a small added expense that lends itself to HUGE results.

3. Sessions are shot Tuesday – Thursday and bookings start at 10am

4. Yes, You can get a few girlfriends together and all come on the same day.

5. What is a reasonable offer? Well, in my mind it is one in which you are happy to pay it and I am happy to receive it. Please keep in mind I need to cover my expenses at the minimum and since I do pay my bills this way making a little money would be awesome too.

6. I offer products such as albums and prints as well as digital only packages. We accept MasterCard/Visa and Cash.

7. I promise you an awesome experience no matter what you pay.

My email is jenrozenbaum@gmail.com – want a shoot? Now’s the time!!

xo,
Jen

Welcome to 2016. 

Do you make resolutions for the new year? I don’t. That isn’t to say I don’t have a million things to improve on, or I don’t want to lose 10 pounds. It just means that I now know that every day is the start of new year. Every day, every minute, every second is a chance for change.

Sometimes that theory works the opposite direction.

Sometimes, in a second your life is changed. 

We have all witnessed it. A death, a divorce, a diagnosis. Something that will change your life in an instant. Recently it happened to me.  I received a call in the tea and coffee aisle of the grocery store. I can remember the smell. Coffee, the scent of mornings and new beginnings. It was one of my dearest friends on the line. She had news. It was cancer.

Fortunately, this story doesn’t have a tragic ending. She is ok. She is still being treated, but thankfully she is ok. It shook me though. It made me wonder about all the seconds in my own life and how I am going to spend them.

Today, instead of returning to the office after a few weeks hiatus to celebrate the holidays, I took the time to have a mammogram. There were SO many other things that needed my attention today. I had a shitload of emails waiting for me, and deadlines to meet. I had laundry and cleaning for miles.

Today I made me more important. I put aside my lengthy to do list and took care of my health. As women, it’s not something that is so easy for us to do.

Women are GREAT at making sure others are cared for, but we rarely prioritize ourselves. 

I got to thinking… isn’t taking care of us also taking care of those we love? Maybe I will make a resolution after all. In 2016, I will take care of me as carefully as I care all others I love. Resolution made!

Who is with me?

xo,

Jen

 

  • Michelle - I am 100% with you! Thank you for that gentle reminder… I’m sending my sincere wishes of strength for your friend.ReplyCancel

  • Nathan - Firstly, Happy New Year from New Zealand :-)Glad that your friend is doing well, it’s not something we would wish for any friend, that’s for sure. It is amazing how we do care for the ones we love dearly and yet we do forget the one we should care for the most, ourselves. Take care of No.1 first and then worry what others do or say. What would they do without you if you weren’t around :-)ReplyCancel

  • Katrina Gallant-russo - Thank you for always bringing the truth and inspiration into your work and especially for encouraging all of us😘ReplyCancel

  • Lerou Silveston - Yes, I do agree … but also I wonder why that is so? Why always others before us ???? Sending hope for your friend and awareness for all of us.ReplyCancel

  • Angela - Thank you Jenn, for that reminder. I sat here and read you article and it was something I had just experienced. My sister and her husband were going to visit a lifelong friend who was on Hospice from cancer, and I offered to watch the grandkids when they got home from school so they could spend the day. Instead at 4am my sister called me and her husband had a heart attack, and I was on the phone as the EMT’s told her they could not revive him. Our world was turned upside down, 2 days before Christmas. A week later their friend died. It was very sad and tragic. We are picking up the pieces as I write this. Of course it’s hardest for my sister, as much as we all miss him and glad he was a part of our lives. They started dating when she was 16 and were together 51 years! I’ve always tried to stay on top of my health, appointments etc. With everything going on, I did not make my appointment, so your article was very relevant to me. I just added, make my appt. to my list of things I need to do, as I get my life back to a new normal. I hope your friend’s treatment goes well and you get to be friends for a very long time. May we all have a much better 2016!ReplyCancel

    • Jen Rozenbaum - I am so sorry to hear about your tragic losses. My thoughts are with you.ReplyCancel

      • Glenda - Amen…My sister was told she had cancer of the liver in March and I lost her the day after Christmas. For the last nine months we laughed, cried but most of all, we enjoyed life to the fullest. Ladies don’t ignore that pain that won’t go away and take the time to make time for you and your health. In a blink of an eye time is gone. God Bless all of youReplyCancel

  • Sandie - This is something I am constantly telling my clients. Why do women put themselves last? Our time & spending priorities are husband/boyfriend, then when the kids come along, the kids are first. Then after that it’s our parents, our pets, our home. But never us. This has to change. We need to love ourselves and value ourselves as much as (or even more) others do. Only this way can we appreciate life to the full. Every day!
    And your blog post is a timely reminder that I need to book an appointment with my dentist!ReplyCancel

Living your authentic self. When I think about it, it seems so easy. Wait, let me rephrase that. It shouldn’t be hard.

Why is just being simply who you are so…. difficult?

I don’t know why. I do know that I struggle with it, and I know other do too. Just today I received two messages from women asking for advice. One on how to be vulnerable as well as authentic, and one who is feeling burned after getting in touch with her own authenticity and living it fully.

I used to spend a lot of time trying to find myself. I have stopped that. Now, I live more in the moment and listen to my gut. (Thank you Yoga!) After all, I can’t find myself when I am ever evolving and moving.

The truth is though, I know WHO I am. That’s never been the struggle. It’s LIVING who I am that is. I mean, what happens if I am more myself than I have ever been and people stop liking me? What if I scream my message from the rooftops and people scream back to “SHUT UP!”? What if my authenticity is outright rejected?

Those questions (and others) keep me up at night sometimes. You know those nights when your brain is in overdrive and you think up every worst case scenario.

Truly though, is it ever worst case scenario if you are being true to yourself?

Isn’t authenticity where the fulfillment comes from?  How could you feel bad about being authentic. Yeah, some bad shit may happen (like a hater or a ruined relationship)- but bad shit is temporary.

Authenticity however,  is forever. 

xo,

Jen

 

 

 

 

 

  • Rebecca Nash-Emerson - Thank you for this reminder Jen!

    I have struggled over and over with living who I am (and I’m sure it will continue to be a struggle sometimes). I am a huge people pleaser but really need to learn to accept that while I will always want to do what I can to make others happy, it’s ok to first check in and make sure that the way I am trying to make them happy sits right with me and who I am.ReplyCancel

  • lulgi - Learning and understanding how to get out of one’s own way is key. My personal successes became much easier, more comfortable and more consistent (I even became a straight “A” student when returning to college to complete a degree at the age of 55) when I accepted this lesson and put ego aside.ReplyCancel

  • Robert Goldsmith - Just a fan of your whole philosophy of shooting women who enjoy the boudoir style and want to involve themselves in it for any of the many reasons we get on both sides of the camera.ReplyCancel

  • Brandi Engel - Oh how I love your wisdom. I find more wisdom in my 40’s than anything else. I also find more humility and patience. Or it could be that someone above is just giving me more grace now lol! Either way 40’s rock!ReplyCancel

This is a post that has been on my mind for a while. As I am moving into my 8th year of photographing women, there are a lot of things I have heard over and over again from clients as well as things I hear from fellow photographers. My hopes for this post is to get clients and photographers on the same page about what to expect from Boudoir!

1. Its ok to be nervous. In fact, I welcome it! Nerves mean you are outside your comfort zone. Guess where all the fun stuff happens in life? That’s right – outside your comfort zone!! That’s where growth and self discovery thrive. Embrace the nerves, I promise they won’t last long.

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2. We aren’t judging (or even really looking) at your body. I know that sounds crazy, but as photographers – that is not our job. Our job is to master posing, light, emotion, etc… So yes although we SEE you, we aren’t picking you apart. We are actually always aiming to capture the best of you and therefore, that is what we see.

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3. On that note, you should know – Both Men and Women make great photographers! Yes, there are some perverts out there, however some of the best boudoir photographers I have seen are Men. Men have the ability to see women a different way that Women can. It’s not that one way is wrong or right. They are just different. When searching for a photographer, keep in mind which would make you feel more comfortable. Want to bring a friend to the shoot to make you feel better? Great! Always make sure you bring a friend who won’t be insulted when you throw her out though. A true professional will never make you feel uncomfortable – so you might not need her as much as  you think.

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4. You don’t have to lose 5 or 10 pounds to book a shoot. Here’s a tip ladies -Wardrobe is key!! With the proper wardrobe, you are giving your photographer the ability to pose you any way they would like. By posing you properly, we will always make you look as good as you look in real life, if not better! And do yourself a favor – Get yourself measured!! Most women are wearing the wrong bra size. The proper bra size makes you look firmer, trimmer and way hotter. (Oh and PS… your period isn’t an excuse to cancel a shoot – a little bloat doesn’t really show on camera.)

5. No, we can’t just photoshop that out. Ok yes, there are SOME things we can photoshop out – like that little tattoo you got one drunk night when you were 18. Maybe that can easily go, but if it covers your whole back, maybe not. Talk to  your photographer about their photoshop policies before you book them!

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6. The more it hurts the better it looks. A lot of photographers bill a photo shoot as a fun sexy day in which you will be pampered. Almost like a spa day. I am here to tell you that even though you WILL feel amazing, it is a lot of work. We are going to pose you and make you wear uncomfortable shoes and wardrobe. Your back will be sore, you may have blisters on your feet… but trust me when I tell you it’s worth it. Even though it might feel weird, trust us when we pose you. Our expertise is what you are paying for! You will have a new found appreciation for models.

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7. Even though you say “it’s for him”, it’s also for you. Most women book shoots as a gift for someone else. The truth is, the experience is for you! The photos are the souvenir. Embrace the experience. The feelings that come along with it. Look back at the photos and remember how incredible you felt that day. You deserve the gift too.

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8. It sucks that I can’t share your photos. I am going to take really gorgeous images of you, and it SUCKS that I can’t share them. I mean how can I build my business if I can’t share my work? It’s not easy – trust me. That said, I will still respect your privacy. If you don’t sign a model release (some clients still do),  I will not share your photos without your permission and I will not hold it against you. Your happiness is the most important thing in the world to me. That said, we love when you tell others how awesome we are. Boudoir is built on referrals and trust. If you love and trust us, please tell someone!

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9. Size or age doesn’t matter. We don’t care if you are a size 2 or a size 22. 25 years old or 85 years old. For me, I want all women to celebrate their unique femininity shamelessly. That truly means ALL women. Don’t put boundaries on yourself just because you “think” it’s not for you. That is just your brain lying to you.

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10. Be prepared, this could be a life changer. You think you are booking a photo shoot for fun or a gift. And you are! However, there is often the most incredible side effect to this experience. Often women will realize their potential. Their secret powers. Their true worth. They will get in touch with feelings they repressed and forgot about a long time ago. These feelings open up their minds and worlds. It gives them power to LIVE. To go after what they want in life. To get out of bad relationships, to apply for new jobs, to travel, to fall in love… The possibilities are endless. This is not just a photo shoot. It’s a life experience.

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I hope this will shed some light on how fun and life changing boudoir can be! Please make sure to share with your friends… and take the leap – it’s SO worth it!

xo,
Jen

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