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Jen Rozenbaum | Modern Day Feminism – My Take.

It’s 2015. It sounds so futuristic, doesn’t it? Maybe it’s because of Back to the Future or maybe it’s because I am turning 40 this year… but 2015 just sounds so… modern.

It is modern. I mean look at how technology has changed. Phones, computers, TV’s, cameras. They have all exceeded what we dreamed was even possible in such a short period of time.

It’s amazing how some things change so rapidly, and others so slowly.

Feminism is changing slowly.

I have a theory on why. It may be controversial, but I don’t care. After all, if I want to be a catalyst for change I need to speak my mind. I think feminism is slow to change because women are so caught up on the definition of feminism.

fem·i·nism
ˈfeməˌnizəm/Submit
noun
the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.

Really?

I don’ t know about you ladies, but me… I don’t want to be equal to men. In fact, we will NEVER be equal to men. We are WOMEN! 

I want to have women’s rights. I want to be able to succeed politically, socially and economically. I don’t however want to be like a man. I want my attributes as a woman to lead to my success. I want someone to hire me BECAUSE of what makes me, ME.

I want to one day vote for a female president… not because she has the balls to run the country. Because she has the feminine touch that just maybe this world needs. She has a different perspective.

Feminism isn’t right or wrong. It’s not about being like someone else; male or female. It’s about embracing your qualities and strengths as a human and being accepted for that.

I recently came across an article that spoke about #freethenipple. If you aren’t familiar with this movement I can summarize it for you quickly. It’s basically women who believe they should have a right to go topless and show their nipples because men can. This is a perfect example of old fashioned feminism in action if you ask me.

Let me say very clearly; I am not scared of nudity, and I do believe a woman should be able to go topless if she wants to. HOWEVER, is going topless successful in proving that we are equal to men? Is showing your nipples freely increasing your power and message as a woman?

My take on it….NO!

Personally, I don’t need to show my nipples to find my equality. This really made me think:

It’s 2015! It’s time that we readdress what we, as women, want feminism to be. 

I want to put the FEMININE back in FEMINISM. Let’s be women AND succeed. Let’s be caring, emotional, soft, hard, funny, strong, and all the other million things women are. Let’s EMBRACE those qualities and show the world that they are right. We are NOT like men. That however, is exactly what makes us amazing. It’s exactly WHY you should hire us, vote for us, treat us fairly.

We can’t change the world until we embrace ourselves. If we don’t love and cherish what makes us women, how can we expect the world to love and cherish us? It’s time for us to love, and be proud to be a woman.

I would love for you to share your thoughts on feminism in 2015. Please share them in the comments section below.

Happy new year everyone!

xo,

Jen

#ShamelesslyFeminine

 

  • Emily J, Photographer - Agree with you 1000000000%!! I have always hesitated to call myself a feminist because of the definitions associated with it. I don’t want to be a man! I love being a women. I have pride in my nurturing nature. A think I am AMAZING because I choose to be a mother. If feminism means I have to get a job and try to have balls then no thank you. I want to be acknowledged and applauded for the work I do in my own home to raise children who will make this world a better place.ReplyCancel

  • Jeff Jochum - holy Miley! What a powerful idea, this is… And you are the force of nature who can get it done. Your vulnerability is an inspiration, Jen. All my love.ReplyCancel

  • Shannon - Well said Jen, I have often avoided talk of feminism because it really didn’t interest me. I felt that the woman who paved the road for feminism did a great job but I was not interested in carrying their torch. I don’t want or need to be equal to a man, infact I read Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting’s veiw in feminism recently and I agree even though it sent feminists everywhere into a tizzy. I like being a woman, I am sensitive, I am strong, I am independent and I am comfortable in the loving embrace of my husband. I love to cook, I am a stay at home wife and I run a full time business. I am #ShamelesslyFeminineReplyCancel

  • Donnamaria - You’ve summarily stated what so many of us have trouble articulating and you’ve done it perfectly. So how do you perfect perfection? You don’t. Thank you for dancing in my head and singing so loudly!ReplyCancel

  • Teri in CR - WOMAN POWER!! You said it GREAT!!ReplyCancel

  • Tim Duquette - I totally agree! I strongly believe (and am raising my children the same) that women in every sense are just as good, capable, and strong as men if not more-so in most cases.

    For the record, I don’t know a whole lot about the ‘free the nipple’ thing, but here in Ontario… it has been made law a few years ago that a woman can indeed, walk around topless just as men can. Rarely ever happens though.ReplyCancel

  • Regina Marie - How beautifully put!ReplyCancel

  • lisa - Well said! I remember the Women’s liberation movement, (reveals my age here, But even though I was only a girl I felt something was very wrong about it. We need equality, without having to lose the very attributes that make us special!ReplyCancel

  • Deryck - Great post Jen. And thank you for raising this topic
    I’ve always had an issue about women wanting to be equal to men too. Why on earth limit yourself to be EQUAL to something that you’re not? Why not do much better than that and excel as a women in every feminine way possible? During my career as an engineer in the corporate world, I used to mentor many female engineers. Whenever this question came up, I would say to them to take a good look at themselves in the mirror. If it is a woman they see, they should just celebrate every aspect of their beautiful female beings and then they will succeed in the world of business.
    A very happy and successful 2015 to youReplyCancel

    • Jen Rozenbaum - Love that you are supportive of women!!ReplyCancel

  • Julie Watts - The word “feminism” carries so much baggage these days. I would like equal employment opportunities based on a persons skills,aptitude, and passion. Not based on what’s in their pants. That is SO un-modern. :-) Way to go, Jen!ReplyCancel

  • Feminism in 2015 | My Personal Photography Project to Redefine Feminism » Sarah Lehberger | Nostalgic Family Photographer | Connecticut + New York - […] friend Jen Rozenbaum had an interesting perspective on this topic recently and she said, “I want to have women’s […]ReplyCancel

  • Sheila - I so agree with you Jen that I just had to comment on this. I am a strong woman and an equal with my partner in our business. However, have never been part of burning the bra or we are better than men brigade. I personally feel that many woman have always had it sorted and there was no problem with the woman behind the man. So many women in history actually influenced what went on by just being women. In today equality of thought and mind, but nothing wrong with being a woman. I enjoy having a door opened for me, and the play of banter between man and woman. I often worry that woman are going too far and can not understand why a guy saying you look good or sexy is a problem. Celebrate the qualities of men and women and work together, then life is fun. Thanks for voicing what needs to be said.ReplyCancel

  • Yucel - The Afro lady with the white mesh top, fantastic reverse play that works. Wish I’d taken that.

    BravaReplyCancel

  • Pamela - Yesssssssss. Thank you. I feel exactly the same way — but you said it in such a graceful way yet still threw caution into the wind while saying it. I love everything you do all the more now, even though I think I always had a suspicion we agreed on these things. ReplyCancel

  • dee - I could not say it any better!!! That is bang on and exactly how I’ve been feeling lately, esp as I have been on a new journey of discovering my femininity …I was the last of four daughters…trust me alot of pressure to be a boy! Thank u for sharing this, emailing this to a friend:)ReplyCancel

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